The conflict is the initiation. As I’m navigating some conflict in my own personal life, I was sitting in prayer this morning and had an epiphany: the conflict is the path to initiation. I used to run from conflict a lot. I turned away, because it was scary, because it was uncomfortable, and because it was hard to cultivate an inner and outer safety that would allow me to actually be able to face the conflict that was unfolding in and around me. Often, it was much easier to dissociate and pretend like everything was okay or everything was “normal” because I was able to handle it and dissociate, rather than actually looking at the conflict head on and saying my own piece—no, I’m not comfortable with this; the way you’re treating me isn’t okay; I need things to change for my own safety. I’m not perfect at conflict now by any means—often I have to fight the tactic in myself to dissociate or accommodate to the other person more, to self-abandon in order to keep the peace.
The Conflict Is The Initiation
The Conflict Is The Initiation
The Conflict Is The Initiation
The conflict is the initiation. As I’m navigating some conflict in my own personal life, I was sitting in prayer this morning and had an epiphany: the conflict is the path to initiation. I used to run from conflict a lot. I turned away, because it was scary, because it was uncomfortable, and because it was hard to cultivate an inner and outer safety that would allow me to actually be able to face the conflict that was unfolding in and around me. Often, it was much easier to dissociate and pretend like everything was okay or everything was “normal” because I was able to handle it and dissociate, rather than actually looking at the conflict head on and saying my own piece—no, I’m not comfortable with this; the way you’re treating me isn’t okay; I need things to change for my own safety. I’m not perfect at conflict now by any means—often I have to fight the tactic in myself to dissociate or accommodate to the other person more, to self-abandon in order to keep the peace.